A new study says that it takes a typical person approximately 18 months to feel ready to move on after a break up or a lost loved one. Certain things need an expiration date, there is a time we need to be done with them and throw them away. But does grief have an expiration date?
I don't know yet if it's true or not. Well, let's see, If I can surpass this grief after 18 months. If it was only that simple. Hoping that there would be an expiration date for grief so that I would be able to move forward happily. What a wonderful world it would be.
Coz, I have lost a loved one way back January of 2013. So, it's been 16 months. I admit that until now, I can still feel pain whenever I remember the memories. It's not easy to get over someone you love and has been a big part of your life, right?
Surviving each passing day is like a battlefield. Trying to get my mind busy so that I won't feel bored or alone is not easy. I am really thankful for friends and family who uplifts my mood and makes me feel loved. It's been difficult for me to stand still and feel crack.
This is what I know to be true...
Grief is a life long journey. An emotional handicap I get up and live everyday. It does not mean I can't lead a happy life, it is a choice and it takes work. The intensity of grief should lessen over time, but the reality still is every now and then, I feel those pangs.
There is no expiration date for grief. Sadly, it never goes away. But it does not mean that I can't live a happy and productive life. It just means that the love I have shared with a lost loved one, doesn't have an expiration date.
In order to surpass grief, I must go through it, not around it. No matter how painful it is, that is exactly what I must do. I don't have any choice at all. Because no shortcut is without it's share of obstruction.
By going through the intense pain. I will surface as a strong person ready to tackle problem heads on.
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